Everything, all at once


Before I grew my own vegetables, I had it all wrong. I thought all the vegetables came at once, like a veritable salad bar in my own backyard. But of course, it doesn't work that way.  I've got plenty of lettuce and cucumbers, but my tomatoes and carrots are far from ready. Things are a little out of sync.

Of course, you can plan ahead. You can stagger some seeds and stretch the growing season. But control is mostly an illusion. Try as you might, there's always a curve ball coming...a flood or a drought, beetles or blight. You can influence nature, but there are no guarantees. And then, when the timing is right, you'd better be ready! Right now I am buried in beets and all these bulbous yellow summer squash are starting to embarrass me. There are far too many. I can hardly keep up! 

Sounds familiar, doesn't it? Rarely in life do we have everything, all at once. As I write this, I know it's true. But it's still hard to accept sometimes!

Health, love, career success, friendship, adventure, creativity, security, passion..they all have their seasons. Maybe you love where you live, but you hate your job. Maybe you've found your soul mate, but are feeling stressed about some unforeseen bills. Maybe that's OK.

There were years when my career made me feel successful, important and needed, but it hasn't been the same since I moved to Vermont. Some days I really miss the external validation of pay increases and performance reviews. Maybe I always will. Maybe that's OK. I'm busy cultivating a lot of other crops right now.

It's easy to look at what we don't have feel like we are doing something wrong. But that's the illusion of the backyard salad bar. I'd never call myself a failed gardener, just because my carrots are still puny. Just look at those beets! Perhaps it's time I give myself the same break for all the other seasons, as well.

*Apologies to The Byrds


Amish Stories (August 4, 2011 at 10:06 AM)  

Greetings from Amish Stories. Richard from the Amish settlement of Lebanon,Pa.

Alison (August 4, 2011 at 11:13 AM)  

Thanks for checking in, Richard! I've been to Lebanon, PA - very nice!

plumpestpeach (August 5, 2011 at 12:20 PM)  

Does that ring true or what! It is hard to accept that there are seasons for everything and that it's okay to not have everything all at once. Control is totally an illusion, I agree. Thanks for the post, it was helpful to hear.

Alison (August 8, 2011 at 12:50 PM)  

Thanks for stopping by plumpest peach!

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